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I'm starting to get a bit discouraged from roleplaying on this site. Like I'm fine with doing stuff in the comments and they're open for anyone, but serious roleplaying...maybe I'm not cut out for it here or maybe I'm just too picky. 

Like I love roleplaying for the storytelling aspects, but I also take the writing part of it very seriously. I write my RPs like I would a story or excerpt that I would publish to my account, and I personally need to see that matched or I lose interest in the RP. And I hate sounding all pretentious about my writing because it's really /not/ that fantastic or even fully developed the way I want. But I'm trying to improve both my writing style and characterization, and roleplaying is kind of a nice shorthand way of doing so for me (the continuous prompting can be quite helpful). But if I don't feel like my effort or skill level is being matched, I feel like my attempt is pointless and that I'm just writing to hear myself talk (because I'm going to still try and put my best stuff out there for the sake of my own improvement).

And lately I feel like a lot of my RPs are very one-sided and it's been throwing me into a funk. Like I want to get back into the groove of roleplaying on here like I used to but...it gets increasingly difficult doing it with people who don't care for writing or even grammar the way I do. But I also don't want to sound like an asshole about it either. So I kind of don't really know what to do at this point, and I really don't want to offend anyone :/

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ilbv Featured By Owner Mar 15, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Roleplaying can sometimes be a length and tedious commitment unles both players are really on fire with the concept.
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alockwood2 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
Well, I mainly RP in Notes, but the one person I'd RP with deactivated their account some time back.
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Earwiggy Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2017  Student General Artist
I use notes too. But a lot of my old RP buds are gone, so I kind of quit putting myself out there as an RP-er for a while. I'm finally trying to get back into it but not a lot of people take it seriously OTL
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alockwood2 Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
Happens.
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Earwiggy Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2017  Student General Artist
Yeah :V
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alockwood2 Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
Been over a year since I've done one.
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RedlaSunShowers029 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
Oh damn, if there's anything that grinds my gears it's unsolicited, mediocre roleplays (or one or the other, depending). I completely understand thism and none of this comes off as your sounding like a prick, just reasonably annoyed.

It's even worse when they keep yelling at you to finish your responses when they give you something literally along the lines of "hi." Fortunately this hasn't happened in ages, but damn I'm sorry you're going through similar struggles getting into RPing.
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Earwiggy Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2017  Student General Artist
I've certainly felt that pain since the two have the horrible tendency to come together. At some point I may need to write some rules again, just to safeguard myself more :U

And I've had that before too, but I've been wanting to RP more seriously on this site lately since I'm driven to improve my writing...but I kind of need to at least feel reciprocated in effort or I feel like I'm just yammering on and not being heard. Like I'm cool with small errors and not having the best structure, but if I can barely interpret what I'm given it kills it. That and lots of people don't know what tenses are and use them interchangeably which is a personal pet peeve.
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RedlaSunShowers029 Featured By Owner Mar 10, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
Yep, it sure does, sadly. Probably because the good RPers are more reserved in their picks is my guess, but it doesn't make it any less annoying to get a bunch of random ones that you're not interested in. Writing rules would at least give you a place to direct them to if they pester you.

Totally understand that - that's why I Roleplay, too. But it's really difficult when they won't work with you and respond really briskly. A response or two is okay if they're in a rush, but other than that it's... Meh. Generally what I've grown to do is just respond equally effortlessly when those pop up, even though it doesn't feel the best doing so; that way, you save your stamina for the good writers. I've had a few where I couldn't even understand it too - if they don't speak English natively that's a different story, but if they do and don't follow basic structure then it kills it, yep.

I definitely hope you manage to find some better Roleplayers - I would offer, but if you just need some time to cool off that's fine as well.
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Core4Lost Featured By Owner Edited Mar 6, 2017  Hobbyist Writer
dont say bad stuff about yourself <: c
I mean, I was once a noob RPer when I first started to RP on DA like maybe years ago, and I suck at it cause of my bad RPing skills. but I got improved from my other friends I had on here to help me out ^u^ but please, I dont want you to feel bad about yourself or calling yourself an ass...your wonderful and very great at RPing. I had a fun time RPing with you and if I did something bad just tell me, I'll fix it XD lawl. I mess up all the time, and so do others ^^; 
but I really love to RP just to have fun ^u^ and I just want you to have a good time to RP too to express yourself. but please....I dont want you to feel this way <: s we love you <3 
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Wolffgirlll Featured By Owner Mar 5, 2017  Student General Artist
This is why I try especially hard to make sure everything sounds right when I roleplay! I get upset with myself if my phone autocorrects something when I hit send and then I beat myself up over it. (which is kinda funny to witness actually)

I often rewrite a roleplay comment over six times, because I don't want to look sloppy, don't want to make it seem like I'm in control of the rp, and I don't want to make it like I own the other characters, or I have to change them to what I want, because I've been in games or rps where people do that and I didn't feel involved.

This perfectly puts it into words!!!
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Earwiggy Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2017  Student General Artist
Same, I'm a perfectionist and I have to put time in to make sure things make sense and flow right, or I can't bring myself to even post it. I never like feeling like I'm controlling the RP or godmodding, I just want to write kinks and explore characters and as long as it's written decently I'm cool. Like I'm not going to beat someone up over a few mistakes or grammar errors, but if what they write doesn't look anything like an actual story that could be posted, then I just lose interest (because most of the time I'd gladly post my half, and I occasionally post my excerpts to tumblr)

Although one thing that will always peeve me is never putting things into past tense in a written reply. Unless it's agreed on not to, the tenses need to match.
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Wolffgirlll Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2017  Student General Artist
Yeah, my motto for when I write ended up being, "If it doesn't flow, it's a big no." Because I'm a dork like that. Yeah, to me if it feels like you're controlling the RP you probably are or the other person isn't putting a lot of work into it. It's especially hard because when I start writing, oh my Lord of the Rings is it easy to get carried away. So when I look at it and realize how long it is, I end up completely restarting it. Yeah, and I can't stand people who replace numbers for letters in RP or storytelling. Why not just type out the word? I agree with that concept as well, write it like you would have it posted or published, because it makes you think about what you're writing.

I'll keep that in mind as well, as I often catch myself using the wrong tense XD
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The-Queen-of-Solace Featured By Owner Mar 5, 2017  Hobbyist Artist
Omg you said it so well. That's why I make rules for when I roleplay here. It's like they lack the brain to type out anything. You're trying to make it sound like you're roleplaying. 

And all you get is legit "I sound like an idiot". 
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:iconearwiggy:
Earwiggy Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2017  Student General Artist
I may retype my rules up at some point since I haven't done it in forever. But lord I get so peeved when I type a response I feel proud of just in the literary sense and I get a poorly written response in return. Makes my efforts feel wasted and that I should have just written a story for myself instead x/
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lanternlover34 Featured By Owner Mar 5, 2017
I don't think you're being unfair or an ass or anything like that. People should be able to have a standard for what they want and given how some people rp I'm not surprised.
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Earwiggy Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2017  Student General Artist
Ah true I just hate being exclusionary in any sense. But at this point I kind of need to a bit :/
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bigboymom Featured By Owner Mar 5, 2017
You don't sound bad. I come in this website to mainly rp and look at the art, and when I role play and I fell like someone isn't matching my effort than I get mad to. But grammar in the other hand I never really cared about, as you can see from this post that I probably made errors in.
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Earwiggy Featured By Owner Mar 5, 2017  Student General Artist
Thanks, and yeh in that sense it really does peeve me since I will write a fair bit. And grammar is kind of iffy. If I can't actually decipher what's written due to poor grammar it can kill my mood. Casual mistakes are fine as long is it flows and there was obvious effort put into it (like I roleplayed with a great character writer who could not spell for crap--they admitted to it themself-- but it was fine because they made up for it with great storytelling).
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bigboymom Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2017
Well same for me, if the grammar it to bad I can't rp with that person. Also I do like a person who is good at describing characters and can move the start along. Really the true thing is that the effort should be matched, well that's how I think anyways.
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Your not an a hole your just doing the right thing
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